IT’S no surprise that January is the busiest time of year for family lawyers and the first day of the working year has become aptly known as ‘divorce day’.
In reality, although the decision to take action is often made after Christmas, a separation is something that couples may have been discussing for some time. Christmas can be the catalyst for action but, couples should take a step back, stop reacting and take responsibility rather than focusing on attributing blame.
IT’S no surprise that January is the busiest time of year for family lawyers and the first day of the working year has become aptly known as ‘divorce day’.
In reality, although the decision to take action is often made after Christmas, a separation is something that couples may have been discussing for some time. Christmas can be the catalyst for action but, couples should take a step back, stop reacting and take responsibility rather than focusing on attributing blame. Think – can you work this out together?
If, despite everything, the only rational solution is divorce, then obtaining legal advice is important but it’s not an irreversible course of action: seeing a solicitor does not mean that you are on a fixed, unstoppable course.
Couples need to ensure that they choose the right process to suit them. Mediation is cheaper than a court battle and helps to promote a non-adversarial outcome, but if agreement is not on the cards, court proceedings may become necessary. A good solicitor will guide you through whatever process is best for you and provide the support needed. This does not have to come at a huge financial cost and fixed fees are often available.
It is vitally important that the children are not forgotten. They will know there is a problem and are good barometers for family stress. Be aware that children often blame themselves for the breakdown of their parents’ relationship. Think how your behaviour may affect them.
Our advice (naturally) is to come and speak to us about your situation. A specialist family lawyer can help and our Family Team know the emotional turmoil that separation can bring: they offer an understanding, sympathetic approach in dealing with it. Just as importantly, as a firm, we can advise on often forgotten aspects such as revising your will, using trusts to ensure that what you want to leave to loved ones does not get diluted by future relationships, and even helping if you need to dispose of the matrimonial home (or buy a new one after divorce).
So, if your Christmas was merry and your New Year happy, then let’s raise a glass. If not…. we’re all the help you need.
For further information please contact Paula Futer on 0800 088 6004, by email at or by visiting www.wilsonbrowne.co.uk
